Trini Gyal to Stay Away From

They say finding a good man is hard to find, will let me tell you this- finding a good woman is even harder. We women bash men to the fullest! Always saying men are dogs and they lie so much, but come on the truth so women LIE BETTER and HIDE BETTER than men. Some women have ABSOLUTELY NO CONSCIENCE. Not to mention women who love to be right- admitting they were wrong is the last thing they would do. Expect some secrets to be taken to their grave. My last blog made some of my male readers feel victimized, well let’s talk about some Trini women to stay away from.

  1. Red Woman: forever on the top of the list. A couple blogs back I wrote refuting this statement that “The Only Good Red Thing is a Dollar”, however by popular demand ALL man seem to think red woman is from the Devil’s spawn. Ladies don’t take offense I’m on the fence about this one- I know some relll faithful and loyal red women. Red women forever intimidating men that’s why most men say “red woman bad” a few bad apples spoil the bunch. Oh well :/                                         
  2. Every man is your cousin or brother. I get your family big but EVERYYYY man you liming with is your cousin or brother so? Girl bye! I can’t understand if this person is your relative and both of yall going to watch a movie alone or going a party/clubbing together and is level ‘bend ova’ and ‘stab out’. We know Jerome ain’t your bro or cousin unless yall about that Lannister life (shout out to all the Game of Thrones fans). 
  3. You in every party and clubbing every week. This excludes the working ladies out there, big ups to you cause you working and spoiling yourself. But to the females who works nowhere and draws no pay- I cannot understand how this is even possible for you to be at every party and club, with a new outfit every week, hair well done, nails freshly did and accessories on fleek. Where you get the money from? You got a sugar daddy? Do you not have goals? Ambition? Don’t you go to school if you ain’t working? That ain’t cute 
  4. Social Media whores. Ahem! Every pic is a half naked pic and the hastag be like #BeachLife #ImaMermaid #IslandLife #LifeInABikini ohh my godddd -_- no bitch you pimpin your body for likes and tusty man comments. Not saying don’t feel yourself but all your pics your breasts outside, you bending over backwards and all kinda mechanics to get the angle to make your ass cheeks look healthy. I rel can’t 
  5. TWERK GIRL! Your snaps and IG vids are of you twerking… I need not say anything else.                                                                                      
  6. The “Comps” possee. You always wanna be in every party but forever asking for comps, after freeness is ….. And so these party promoters take advantage of some of these easy birds, if you want comps- open your legs and some of these girls do this shit just to get a pic from Triniscene or LimeTT. Steups.      
  7. Its Complicated. Okay so he’s cute, but when he asks if you have a bf your response is “I’m in the process of a breakup”, “its complicated” or “I’m so unhappy”. Always a victim in your relationships. Stop being a thot, your man takes you out and showers you with love but your insecurity driving you to gain the attention of other men. 
  8. You have over 4000 fb friends but nobody tracking you. Hmmm these girls right here, forever chaining up men bout you’re the only guy I talk to. Girl please homeboy stay waiting in your chats and those ticks remain grey and you constantly online. Who you fooling? 
  9. A password and lock for every app. Your gallery have a lock, phone calls- lock, whatsapp- lock, settings-lock, alarm-lock. Ummmmm seriously? What you hiding so? Thot files? 
  10. Every DJ in your contacts list. Why you need to have salty on speed dial? Is shout out you longing for? Free entry to clubs? Yuh wa speed? 
  11. Leggings and crop top. You going to the cinema and wearing leggings and all the tiger outside. You don’t feel cold? Sun don’t burn you? You don’t feel disrespected when men be like “Oh god gyal.. that thing printing out”           
  12. I only have guy friends cause girls like too much bacchanal. LMAO thisss girl, I can’t. If they’re your friends why can all of them say they got the beat already? Why you in the middle of a parry? Smh                                                   
  13. Girls who tracking people man….. mmmmm Jesus take the wheel! These thots be ever bold face. But that’s a separate blog by itself. Stop being willing side hoes. It don’t look good.                                                                                     

The truth is I can go on and on about this, so many guys sent me some of these girls to stay away from, but this is just a few. Big ups to Runako, Tiffano, Kore, Kiah, Nisha, Bjorn etc. for having opinions on these. NO OFFENSE to anyone. Written in Trini slang.

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Netflix and Chill?

In my previous blog I mentioned that “Netflix and Chill” is a classic date for a man hoe. However, this phenomenon has become increasingly popular. So much so that countless memes are being made about it. First, let’s define what exactly is Netflix and Chill.

Netflix- this is an on-demand streaming service, most movies and TV series (once you got premium *cough cough*)

Chill– an urban slang to mean, hanging out or liming.

“Netflix and Chill”

You see why it bothers me that these two words when joined together can have a completely different meaning? I just don’t get it

Is it that this new generation is settling for going straight to the bedroom and not even bothering with the courting stage. I may be naive to that fact, but I believe in chivalry. Flowers are cute, whatever happened to a love note or a card? Is that not a thing anymore? Is taking a girl out on a date to dinner or a stroll in the park too much effort to give? Let’s not forget how things used to be when pictures were still black and white- we actually respected ourselves.

 

I can’t see how its a date to tell a smallie “link me in 51 Thursday”, how are you having meaningful discourse and sharing likes and dislikes when she’s “cocking right up” and you stabbing from behind. Or the fact that taking a girl straight to your house, with the low lights, horror movie (cause females be acting jumpy), and 5 mins into the movie hormones raging cause you’re not speaking to each other but your bodies doing the talking.

Ladies, this isn’t bashing the guys- but its both parties, what you allow a man to do is exactly what he’ll do to you. A guy knows which tree to bark up on. Cheap prices attract many customers. The baddest man hoe isn’t gonna come around a girl who has her head on, with a high level of self-respect and approach her with “Yo Tasha, wa u for? Netflix and chill awa?” No… Who are you attracting?

The Trini “Man Hoe”

According to the Urban Dictionary a “manwhore” can be described as “the male equivalent of a slut”. For the purpose of this being a Trini blog, I shall refer to the colloquial term “man hoe“. History has fueled the dominance of men, making it okay for men to be polygamous and sleep around while having a monogamous woman being submissive to him. Although, there has been many waves of feminism we still see this ideology being perpetuated today. The instant a girl flirts with a guys, has a fling or does anything that patriarchal society sees as unfit, she is deemed a “HOE” and is looked upon as the scum of the earth.

Recently, I’ve heard of many stories from females about guys they call a man hoe. Ladies don’t be naive, yes true love probably exist- not saying no. But in the society we live in today don’t expect to find it in the first guy who shows interest. Here are a few red flags that a guy might be a “man hoe”. Ladies I know you will relate, guys hard luck- but if it falls in your garden you know what to do.

  1. The Red Man syndrome. Fed up hear people bash “red woman” refer to my previous blog about “The Only Good Red Thing is a Dollar”. Instead of bashing the women, pay attention to some of the red skinned guys out here. Most red men who’s aware of the power their complexion takes advantage and pushes it to the limit. The arrogance is too much to take from some of you. You’re just red- not a god. Calm down. 
  2. The Douglas. Lemme just tell you- I have a weakness for mixed men, most females do to that fact. From observation and experience, some of these dougla guys just love sharing the genes of the two major ethnicity, they revel in it and walk around feeling like every female wants them. But some of you are just pennywise douglas anyway and playing games with innocent women. 
  3. The “so when we liming girl” type of guy. Every female you hit up is the same question, pretty sure some of you hit copy and paste in those DMs, because its always the same question. 
  4. “Netflix and Chill” guys. This is my pet peeve right here. Chivalry is dead! Dead I tell you. Some guys come at you, “I on’t like crowds, I don’t like to be in public, I’m a quiet type of guy maybe we can watch Netflix and Chill?” No girlfriend, he doesn’t like crowds on a first date cause he doesn’t wanna bounce up one of his other females. On a first date you should be asked to a movie and dinner AT LEAST, not straight to the living room or bedroom to “Netflix and Chill” cause we all know that connotes to “Netflix while I beat you out”  
  5. The party promoter. He promotes parties for a living… MAN HOE! Not gonna be harsh and say ALL guys who promote party bad. But guess what, he’ll flirt with every female and her 10 friends to get them to come to his party, they’ll think he wants them and you’ll look like the ass. Guess what his excuse will be that he’s “networking” and this party is for you bae, no girlfriend he’s sneaking away from you to wine on the smallie from whatsapp.
  6. I’m a good guy”. Red flag… Their introduction speech is about how good they are and faithful and not on games. He’s single because his last gf broke his heart and he hasn’t healed yet and that’s he afraid of being hurt and no girl has caught his interest – yet their IG pics getting 200+ likes and their whatsapp flooding? 
  7. “Everything on fleek” kinda guy. Ladies, he takes longer than you to get dressed, he shaves every other day, he uses out half bottle of cologne in one go, each curl is precisely identical and lays in a specific way, clothing matches, accessories are being worn everyday (bands, big ass bead necklaces I never understand, watches, piercings like whoa and ANKLETS!??), gym freak to BULK up not just for health… he’s not going the extra mile for one girl, otherwise he’d have settled down by now. Feel free to disagree- my opinion. 

This may not be totally true, but seeing from experience first hand and second hand has influenced these perceptions. Guys sorry for the bashing, but the next blog will be on the ladies 😉

Not Everything that Glitters is Gold- Physical Attractiveness Stereotype

It has been observed over the years that persons who are more “physically appealing” are perceived in a positive light than others who aren’t as fortunate. However, I put physically appealing in quotations because beauty is in the eye of the beholder and is very much subjective. John Nairaland describes this phenomena as, “physical attractiveness stereotype which is a term that psychologists use to refer to the tendency to assume that people who are physically attractive also possess other socially desirable personality traits.”

 

Talk about judging a book by its cover. How unfair is it to judge someone off of their physical appearance and not by their intellect or personality or even kindness and honesty of their heart.

A Beautiful Convict

A perfect example of this can be seen in the “Free Jeremy Meeks” campaign which started last year when a mugshot of a blue-eyed convicted was posted on social media. Women went crazy! Let me tell you these women completely forgot that he was arrested for possession of a firearm (which could have been used to KILL SOMEONE!!) and as a result this man’s photo went viral. Women worldwide were signing online petitions to free the infamous Jeremy Meeks. He got so much publicity (and we all know there’s no such thing as ‘BAD PUBLICITY’) that he caught the attention of many modelling agencies. The Daily Mail’s March 2015 article headlined: ‘Hot convict’ Jeremy Meeks wins modelling contract despite being behind bars.

 What is wrong with society? Of course he is good-looking but does this make him less of a convict? Apparently being good-looking speaks louder than credentials and character. This also proves that good looking people aren’t necessarily the same as on the inside.

The man who spawned a thousand memes: Meeks' mugshot inspired memes (like the one above) and earned him nicknames like 'Hotty McMug Shot' and 'Mugshot McDreamy'

Physically Appealing Persons Get the Jobs

Research has shown that being physically attractive proves to be significantly effective during a job interview.

If you’re from T&T you may have heard this stereotype that flight attendants and bank employees, to be specific, are usually chosen by their looks. People who have “high colour”, mixed, tall, slim, good-looking- all socially constructed views of what defines beauty- are the one who get the job and by extension “get- through in life”.

The Media Implies this Binary Opposition

You ever wondered why the villains in movies are usually the hella ugly or scary, creepy looking ones and the heroes are fine as ever? The media are the ones who have created these ideas of what beauty is supposed to reflect, and because the media has a such a huge impact it has formed these socially constructed beliefs.

Beliefs that the attractive people are good, as opposed to the less attractive ones who are always the villains. These crucial binary oppositions play a huge role in how society stereotype the physical appearance of people. Such strong binary opposition such as: black vs white; rich vs poor; slim vs fat and good vs. evil are pervasive in many Disney movies.

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Why is Ursula in Black and has over-exaggerated features?

Why couldn’t Ursula be attractive as well?

 

Beauty is not Skin Deep

Beauty is subjective when it comes to physical appearance, however the real beauty is in someone’s mind and heart. Beauty goes beyond the skin.

It comes from a person’s integrity, loyalty and honour. It comes from the person who sees the best in even the worst person, from someone who’s kindness has no limits. Beauty is reflected by such intangible characteristics that its something not seen, but something that is felt. The ability to see beyond surface level and appreciate what the reality of someone truly represents can lead to a less biased society.

REFERENCES:

Read more:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2978166/Hot-convict-Jeremy-Meeks-wins-modelling-contract-despite-bars.html#ixzz3WpjAVPCA
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http://www.nairaland.com/1511018/physical-attractiveness-stereotype

Physical Attractiveness Stereotype. (n.d.). In Alleydog.com’s online glossary. Retrieved from: http://www.alleydog.com/glossary/definition-cit.php?term=Physical Attractiveness Stereotype

Read more: http://www.alleydog.com/glossary/cite-my-term.php?term=Physical%20Attractiveness%20Stereotype#ixzz3Wpgprsse

“Where all that traffic does come from Daddyyyy?”- Bumpers Like Rain!

I’m not speaking about the typical connotative bumpers we “jam on” for Carnival. We’re talking bumper to fender traffic piled up on our Nation’s highways, main roads, back roads, nooks and crannies; your granddaddies took to check your grannies. STANDSTILL TRAFFIC, everywhere.

Photo: Wa Chubble is Dis
Photo: Wa Chubble is Dis

It’s Monday 23rd March, 2015… and this is what our roadways look like

Photo courtesy Marlon Arman-Marquis
Photo courtesy Marlon Arman-Marquis
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Photo: CNC3

This “unplanned roadblock” began from as early as 5am exactly one week ago Monday morning, I remember waking up to finding out about endless traffic, statuses going on up Facebook one after the next about “Police checking everything” and “Traffic like mad” I had absolutely no intentions of leaving my house to be held up in traffic for menacing hours.

Children were unable to get to school, employers and employees alike were all unable to reach the workplaces, flights were cancelled, banks were unable to open, the PBR was at a standstill, the EMR jammed and let’s not speak about the Highways. .

The greatest however, were the images that were flooding social networks. Photos taken by the frustrated drivers held up in traffic of Police officers efficiently and meticulously doing their work by checking oil, spare tires etc. because we all know that in T&T the officers of TTPS are the most multi-talented and diverse. However, don’t mind my sarcasm. This was true; the image below is of a news report from CNC3

Photocred: CNC3 via "Wa Chubble is Dis?"

Photo: Wa Chubble is Dis
Photo: Wa Chubble is Dis

See didn’t I tell you they were checking every single thing?!

Let’s stray from this disaster that took place and focus on what the theme of this blog is about…. Stereotypes; this blog entry will delve into “Stereotypes attached to TTPS”

Photo: Wa Chubble is DIs
Photo: Wa Chubble is DIs

By no means are these MY PERSONAL VIEWS, the following are stereotypes I’ve heard over the past few years and the number of them that came up on my news feed during Monday’s roadblocks.

  • Police doesn’t do anything and get paid
  • Police corrupt
  • Police like too much woman
  • Police does take bribe
  • Police wotless
  • Police does wine on people for Carnival
  • Police disrespectful
  • Police like to abuse their power
  • Police slow and unresponsive to crime
  • Police afraid to go in bad man area
  • The worst man you could be with is a Police man
  • Police men are people who failed high school and getting paid more than people with degrees
  • Police were people who used to get bullied when they were younger so now they take advantage of other people

I can bet my last dollar, that you’ve at least heard 3 of these stereotypes; if not then you’re clearly not from Trinidad & Tobago or you’re a Police (no offense). However, are there truths to any of these stereotypes? Comment and let me know.

Now being as objective as I can be with the issue on Monday, the Police are in fact right for protesting for their raise of pay since they have one of the lowest paid jobs in public service as well as having the highest risk. According to the Secretary of the Police and Social Welfare Association, Michael Seales said that members have been complaining that since 2011 there has been no progress in the negotiations with the Chief Personnel Officer (CPO). Seales said the basic salary of a junior police officer was TT$5,123 (One TT dollar =US$0.16 cents) and just about TT$1,000 more in benefits. However, the manner in which they protested by holding our island under ransom caused massive losses to productivity and finances, which set the state back millions of dollars just for that one day. So yes, the police were wrong in the way they protested but they aren’t wrong for wanting a raise in pay.

If you’re a UWI student like me you would remember the strike of the OWTU, the janitors did not clean bathrooms or empty garbage for more than 2 weeks. The stench was unbearable and there was litter everywhere, garbage cans were overflowing and flies and bees were beginning to circulate.

Everyone protests in some way or the other to get what they want, this has become a norm in T&T so don’t be mad at the Police for protesting, be mad at them for holding the state as ransom. Also, don’t lose faith in them they were doing their job after all and very efficiently might I add. At the end of the day the Police are the first people we contact during emergencies and mishaps (excluding the Ambulance) so let’s work together with them instead of criticizing, give constructive criticism, they are not all bad, there are good ones out there.

Let’s just say thank God that T&TEC didn’t decide to strike

😀 :v (y)

REFERENCES:

Read more: http://www.caribbean360.com/news/trinidad-comes-to-a-virtual-standstill-as-police-deny-embarking-upon-industrial-action#ixzz3VqnONyT7

Wa Chubble is Dis via Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Wachubbleisdis?ref=ts&fref=ts

CNC3 via Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CNC3Television?ref=ts&fref=ts

Guardian: VIDEO: Gridlock across T&T roadways as police conduct stop and search exercises during rush hour traffic. Video: Jeff Mayers / T&T Guardian

De Only Good Red Thing is a Dollar

A calm Sunday evening while taking a drive with some friends around the savannah, we saw this gorgeous red-skinned girl. Her skin flawless, legs for days as she was showing them off in short shorts, curly hair, and brown eyes. Plaint talk… She was a looker (coming from a heterosexual female) even I did a double take, along with my two male and two female friends. Comments were “Damnnn that body”, “Omg, I love her hair”, “Woman to have”… and then out of the blue, “Too bad de only good red thing issa dollar!” that last comment had everyone else saying “For real” and in agreement. However, I’ve heard this all my life and its a social belief that majority of Trinibagonians use. Let’s be real if you’re a Trini there’s no doubt in my mind that you’ve heard that phrase.

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“De only good red thing is a dollar?” but why? My friends didn’t know the girl personally so why jump to that conclusion? This is where my curiosity to understand such a stereotype came from.

What does this statement even mean?

In the simplest way to put it, “De only good red thing is a dollar” with reference to a female who has lighter skin or as we know it “red skin” (usually mixed women), means that when it comes to red “things” the dollar beats back the woman, as the woman isn’t good, then she obviously has to be bad, right? Not really, this statement also attaches a connotation behind it that implies that “all red woman bad”. Don’t front here people we know what bad in Trini slang means.

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Patriarchal Society

As much as we have feminists in an abundance these days, we can’t forget that we live in a patriarchal society where in the colonial era women were objectified and seen as objects to use, this is where we get the reference of encapsulating a women when speaking of “red things”

Unfair Stereotype

Being as objective as I can be and also doing research, surveys and ethnographic studies, I came to the conclusion that this stereotype is completely unfair to say the least. Majority of these women are usually perceived in a negative light because of this local stereotype that has existed since I could remember myself.

Why do people think red women are “bad”?

So I did some investigation into why people assume this. My method was to post a status on Facebook and allow the comments and opinions to pour in, the following images are screenshots of what was said.

The status I posted
The status I posted

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From the screenshots you can see that although there is some division among the comments, the majority of people agree that “the only good red thing is indeed a dollar”

The following are screenshots from a heated conversation about “red women” on Twitter:

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Now these screenshots are extreme opinions of red women

People have usually said:

  • Red women have a bad attitude
  • Red women feel they better than everyone else
  • Red women like to “horn”
  • Red women too stush
  • Red women like material things
  • Red women can’t cook
  • Red women too high maintenance
  • Red women only good for looks and nothing else

The list goes on and on and on and on

Good “red women”

I can’t agree with the popular consensus because I have red skinned friends who are nothing like what these stereotypes state. My friends are all humble, friendly, faithful , down to earth, independent and ambitious. These young women have more to offer than just their great looks and complexion. They’re all furthering their studies and have never been in any compromising situation where they characters were questionable. However, they have all been victims of these stereotypical comments and even thought they’ve complained, they moved passed them because their goals are bigger than stereotypes that aren’t true, especially those that are attached to them because of their complexion.

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Adriana Salandy Student at UWI BA in Psychology
faithy
Faith Espinoza Administrative Secretary, Student: Associates in Tourism Management
lizzie
Elizabeth Cox Corporate Secretary Student: Business Management

So to conclude this blog, the only good red thing IS INDEED a dollar, because women aren’t things… We’re human beings.

“I Live Where You Vacation”- Trinibagonian Stereotypes

“I live where you vacation”

"I Live Where You Vacation"
“I Live Where You Vacation”

Trinidad and Tobago’s scenic landscapes attract many tourist and quite often people are “surprised” when they observe that we actually have an economic industry beside tourism. Absurd right? I recently had an encounter with a relative from abroad who’s never been to T&T but has heard of it. The questions she asked me about where I live had me picking up my jaw from the floor. First the way she spoke as if I was deaf had me telling her, “I’m Trini… Not deaf.” made me think about how many other people think these very obnoxious stereotypes about our twin-islands. Here’s a list of general stereotypes I’ve come across, ranging from some drastic ones to some that have truth in them.

Anyone with a Caribbean accent is automatically from Jamaica

Sesame Street's Representation of the Caribbean
Sesame Street used Jamaica to represent the entire Caribbean

I have some friends studying abroad who frequently complain about foreigners asking them if they’re from Jamaica as soon as they hear their accents. Newsflash, not everyone with a Caribbean accent is from Jamaica. Jamaica isn’t the only island that exists in the Caribbean, get an atlas, this is the 21st Century. Seriously? Many times we can see Jamaica being used as a representation for the Caribbean as a whole, so the media is partly to blame for some of the stereotypes. Some may even blame Trinibagonians for not promoting their culture as much as Jamaicans do. However, the point is there are many other Caribbean accents and not all of them sound like Jamaicans and come from Jamaica. They’re the Bajans, the Vincentians, the St. Lucians and so forth.

Everyone in Trinidad lives next to a beach

Home to some of the most beautiful beaches
Home to some of the most beautiful beaches

Beside the fact that this question is so stereotypical, how is this logically possible that 1.2 million individuals has the beach as their backyards? What happens to all the other land away from the coastlines? Are they “undiscovered” still? This is such an annoying stereotype that upsets me because it makes me think that people believe all we do in Trinidad is live this hyper-fantasized idea of living on the beach and relaxing ALL THE TIME.

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Let me eliminate that idea one time, we do not ONLY have beaches here in fact we have a series of successful business and we can boast of islands rich with natural resources. People hustle and bustle daily to their jobs which isn’t just being a coconut or doubles vendor, which brings me to my next point…

Coconut Vendors, Doubles Vendors, Vegetable Vendors and Women Making Ornaments at the road side.

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This is such a pervasive stereotype that Trinbagonians and by extension Caribbean people face, that we do not have other jobs beside selling something made by hand or selling fruits and vegetable and honey at the side of the road. The movies really has a primitive way of portraying “island life” as extremely laid back and not taking things seriously, when in fact we do more than pick coconuts and sell.

All Trinis do is LIME!!!

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There is definitely some truth in this stereotype and if you say no, “Yuh blasted lying”. We see you on the Avenue liming and drinking, taking a wine on the ‘smallie’ that pass in the short shorts, you and your girls tracking that fineee man passing by and if you’re still in denial Triniscene and Lime.TT can prove you wrong.

Admit it, Carnival is the most anticipated time of the year for Trinbagonians whether you play mas or you’re anti-Carnival you still look forward to the season. Some may go to every single fete and participate in almost all/ all Carnival related activities. Whereas, those who participate may go to the beach or camp etc. Whatever you do you see it as a lime and Carnival happens to be a great reason to lime.

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The Greatest Show on Earth

Let’s be real here whether you and your friends are catching up on some hot gossip over dinner or partying it out on the Avenue you’re still liming. Trinibagonians make a lime out of anything and find any reason to lime. Can’t necessarily blame us when we live where you vacation 🙂