The Trini “Man Hoe”

According to the Urban Dictionary a “manwhore” can be described as “the male equivalent of a slut”. For the purpose of this being a Trini blog, I shall refer to the colloquial term “man hoe“. History has fueled the dominance of men, making it okay for men to be polygamous and sleep around while having a monogamous woman being submissive to him. Although, there has been many waves of feminism we still see this ideology being perpetuated today. The instant a girl flirts with a guys, has a fling or does anything that patriarchal society sees as unfit, she is deemed a “HOE” and is looked upon as the scum of the earth.

Recently, I’ve heard of many stories from females about guys they call a man hoe. Ladies don’t be naive, yes true love probably exist- not saying no. But in the society we live in today don’t expect to find it in the first guy who shows interest. Here are a few red flags that a guy might be a “man hoe”. Ladies I know you will relate, guys hard luck- but if it falls in your garden you know what to do.

  1. The Red Man syndrome. Fed up hear people bash “red woman” refer to my previous blog about “The Only Good Red Thing is a Dollar”. Instead of bashing the women, pay attention to some of the red skinned guys out here. Most red men who’s aware of the power their complexion takes advantage and pushes it to the limit. The arrogance is too much to take from some of you. You’re just red- not a god. Calm down. 
  2. The Douglas. Lemme just tell you- I have a weakness for mixed men, most females do to that fact. From observation and experience, some of these dougla guys just love sharing the genes of the two major ethnicity, they revel in it and walk around feeling like every female wants them. But some of you are just pennywise douglas anyway and playing games with innocent women. 
  3. The “so when we liming girl” type of guy. Every female you hit up is the same question, pretty sure some of you hit copy and paste in those DMs, because its always the same question. 
  4. “Netflix and Chill” guys. This is my pet peeve right here. Chivalry is dead! Dead I tell you. Some guys come at you, “I on’t like crowds, I don’t like to be in public, I’m a quiet type of guy maybe we can watch Netflix and Chill?” No girlfriend, he doesn’t like crowds on a first date cause he doesn’t wanna bounce up one of his other females. On a first date you should be asked to a movie and dinner AT LEAST, not straight to the living room or bedroom to “Netflix and Chill” cause we all know that connotes to “Netflix while I beat you out”  
  5. The party promoter. He promotes parties for a living… MAN HOE! Not gonna be harsh and say ALL guys who promote party bad. But guess what, he’ll flirt with every female and her 10 friends to get them to come to his party, they’ll think he wants them and you’ll look like the ass. Guess what his excuse will be that he’s “networking” and this party is for you bae, no girlfriend he’s sneaking away from you to wine on the smallie from whatsapp.
  6. I’m a good guy”. Red flag… Their introduction speech is about how good they are and faithful and not on games. He’s single because his last gf broke his heart and he hasn’t healed yet and that’s he afraid of being hurt and no girl has caught his interest – yet their IG pics getting 200+ likes and their whatsapp flooding? 
  7. “Everything on fleek” kinda guy. Ladies, he takes longer than you to get dressed, he shaves every other day, he uses out half bottle of cologne in one go, each curl is precisely identical and lays in a specific way, clothing matches, accessories are being worn everyday (bands, big ass bead necklaces I never understand, watches, piercings like whoa and ANKLETS!??), gym freak to BULK up not just for health… he’s not going the extra mile for one girl, otherwise he’d have settled down by now. Feel free to disagree- my opinion. 

This may not be totally true, but seeing from experience first hand and second hand has influenced these perceptions. Guys sorry for the bashing, but the next blog will be on the ladies 😉

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“Where all that traffic does come from Daddyyyy?”- Bumpers Like Rain!

I’m not speaking about the typical connotative bumpers we “jam on” for Carnival. We’re talking bumper to fender traffic piled up on our Nation’s highways, main roads, back roads, nooks and crannies; your granddaddies took to check your grannies. STANDSTILL TRAFFIC, everywhere.

Photo: Wa Chubble is Dis
Photo: Wa Chubble is Dis

It’s Monday 23rd March, 2015… and this is what our roadways look like

Photo courtesy Marlon Arman-Marquis
Photo courtesy Marlon Arman-Marquis
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Photo: CNC3

This “unplanned roadblock” began from as early as 5am exactly one week ago Monday morning, I remember waking up to finding out about endless traffic, statuses going on up Facebook one after the next about “Police checking everything” and “Traffic like mad” I had absolutely no intentions of leaving my house to be held up in traffic for menacing hours.

Children were unable to get to school, employers and employees alike were all unable to reach the workplaces, flights were cancelled, banks were unable to open, the PBR was at a standstill, the EMR jammed and let’s not speak about the Highways. .

The greatest however, were the images that were flooding social networks. Photos taken by the frustrated drivers held up in traffic of Police officers efficiently and meticulously doing their work by checking oil, spare tires etc. because we all know that in T&T the officers of TTPS are the most multi-talented and diverse. However, don’t mind my sarcasm. This was true; the image below is of a news report from CNC3

Photocred: CNC3 via "Wa Chubble is Dis?"

Photo: Wa Chubble is Dis
Photo: Wa Chubble is Dis

See didn’t I tell you they were checking every single thing?!

Let’s stray from this disaster that took place and focus on what the theme of this blog is about…. Stereotypes; this blog entry will delve into “Stereotypes attached to TTPS”

Photo: Wa Chubble is DIs
Photo: Wa Chubble is DIs

By no means are these MY PERSONAL VIEWS, the following are stereotypes I’ve heard over the past few years and the number of them that came up on my news feed during Monday’s roadblocks.

  • Police doesn’t do anything and get paid
  • Police corrupt
  • Police like too much woman
  • Police does take bribe
  • Police wotless
  • Police does wine on people for Carnival
  • Police disrespectful
  • Police like to abuse their power
  • Police slow and unresponsive to crime
  • Police afraid to go in bad man area
  • The worst man you could be with is a Police man
  • Police men are people who failed high school and getting paid more than people with degrees
  • Police were people who used to get bullied when they were younger so now they take advantage of other people

I can bet my last dollar, that you’ve at least heard 3 of these stereotypes; if not then you’re clearly not from Trinidad & Tobago or you’re a Police (no offense). However, are there truths to any of these stereotypes? Comment and let me know.

Now being as objective as I can be with the issue on Monday, the Police are in fact right for protesting for their raise of pay since they have one of the lowest paid jobs in public service as well as having the highest risk. According to the Secretary of the Police and Social Welfare Association, Michael Seales said that members have been complaining that since 2011 there has been no progress in the negotiations with the Chief Personnel Officer (CPO). Seales said the basic salary of a junior police officer was TT$5,123 (One TT dollar =US$0.16 cents) and just about TT$1,000 more in benefits. However, the manner in which they protested by holding our island under ransom caused massive losses to productivity and finances, which set the state back millions of dollars just for that one day. So yes, the police were wrong in the way they protested but they aren’t wrong for wanting a raise in pay.

If you’re a UWI student like me you would remember the strike of the OWTU, the janitors did not clean bathrooms or empty garbage for more than 2 weeks. The stench was unbearable and there was litter everywhere, garbage cans were overflowing and flies and bees were beginning to circulate.

Everyone protests in some way or the other to get what they want, this has become a norm in T&T so don’t be mad at the Police for protesting, be mad at them for holding the state as ransom. Also, don’t lose faith in them they were doing their job after all and very efficiently might I add. At the end of the day the Police are the first people we contact during emergencies and mishaps (excluding the Ambulance) so let’s work together with them instead of criticizing, give constructive criticism, they are not all bad, there are good ones out there.

Let’s just say thank God that T&TEC didn’t decide to strike

😀 :v (y)

REFERENCES:

Read more: http://www.caribbean360.com/news/trinidad-comes-to-a-virtual-standstill-as-police-deny-embarking-upon-industrial-action#ixzz3VqnONyT7

Wa Chubble is Dis via Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Wachubbleisdis?ref=ts&fref=ts

CNC3 via Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CNC3Television?ref=ts&fref=ts

Guardian: VIDEO: Gridlock across T&T roadways as police conduct stop and search exercises during rush hour traffic. Video: Jeff Mayers / T&T Guardian

“I Live Where You Vacation”- Trinibagonian Stereotypes

“I live where you vacation”

"I Live Where You Vacation"
“I Live Where You Vacation”

Trinidad and Tobago’s scenic landscapes attract many tourist and quite often people are “surprised” when they observe that we actually have an economic industry beside tourism. Absurd right? I recently had an encounter with a relative from abroad who’s never been to T&T but has heard of it. The questions she asked me about where I live had me picking up my jaw from the floor. First the way she spoke as if I was deaf had me telling her, “I’m Trini… Not deaf.” made me think about how many other people think these very obnoxious stereotypes about our twin-islands. Here’s a list of general stereotypes I’ve come across, ranging from some drastic ones to some that have truth in them.

Anyone with a Caribbean accent is automatically from Jamaica

Sesame Street's Representation of the Caribbean
Sesame Street used Jamaica to represent the entire Caribbean

I have some friends studying abroad who frequently complain about foreigners asking them if they’re from Jamaica as soon as they hear their accents. Newsflash, not everyone with a Caribbean accent is from Jamaica. Jamaica isn’t the only island that exists in the Caribbean, get an atlas, this is the 21st Century. Seriously? Many times we can see Jamaica being used as a representation for the Caribbean as a whole, so the media is partly to blame for some of the stereotypes. Some may even blame Trinibagonians for not promoting their culture as much as Jamaicans do. However, the point is there are many other Caribbean accents and not all of them sound like Jamaicans and come from Jamaica. They’re the Bajans, the Vincentians, the St. Lucians and so forth.

Everyone in Trinidad lives next to a beach

Home to some of the most beautiful beaches
Home to some of the most beautiful beaches

Beside the fact that this question is so stereotypical, how is this logically possible that 1.2 million individuals has the beach as their backyards? What happens to all the other land away from the coastlines? Are they “undiscovered” still? This is such an annoying stereotype that upsets me because it makes me think that people believe all we do in Trinidad is live this hyper-fantasized idea of living on the beach and relaxing ALL THE TIME.

economy  Silhouette of oil platform in sea against moody sky at sunset

Let me eliminate that idea one time, we do not ONLY have beaches here in fact we have a series of successful business and we can boast of islands rich with natural resources. People hustle and bustle daily to their jobs which isn’t just being a coconut or doubles vendor, which brings me to my next point…

Coconut Vendors, Doubles Vendors, Vegetable Vendors and Women Making Ornaments at the road side.

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This is such a pervasive stereotype that Trinbagonians and by extension Caribbean people face, that we do not have other jobs beside selling something made by hand or selling fruits and vegetable and honey at the side of the road. The movies really has a primitive way of portraying “island life” as extremely laid back and not taking things seriously, when in fact we do more than pick coconuts and sell.

All Trinis do is LIME!!!

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There is definitely some truth in this stereotype and if you say no, “Yuh blasted lying”. We see you on the Avenue liming and drinking, taking a wine on the ‘smallie’ that pass in the short shorts, you and your girls tracking that fineee man passing by and if you’re still in denial Triniscene and Lime.TT can prove you wrong.

Admit it, Carnival is the most anticipated time of the year for Trinbagonians whether you play mas or you’re anti-Carnival you still look forward to the season. Some may go to every single fete and participate in almost all/ all Carnival related activities. Whereas, those who participate may go to the beach or camp etc. Whatever you do you see it as a lime and Carnival happens to be a great reason to lime.

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The Greatest Show on Earth

Let’s be real here whether you and your friends are catching up on some hot gossip over dinner or partying it out on the Avenue you’re still liming. Trinibagonians make a lime out of anything and find any reason to lime. Can’t necessarily blame us when we live where you vacation 🙂